MissQ-OKC

I create my own happy

missqokc — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 03:38:11 +0000

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” The Dalai Lama

You can’t argue with the Dalai Lama. You could, but you would probably end up feeling foolish.

leaping into 2012

missqokc — Sun, 08 Jan 2012 03:40:01 +0000

I still have moments of awe-inspiring, fearless creativity followed by weeks of questioning myself. i wish I could, at the very least, change the ratio of awesomeness to questioning if not eliminate the questioning altogether. but..where to start…where to start.

“I can’t make anyone happy!”

missqokc — Fri, 23 Dec 2011 03:16:20 +0000

It’s not your job to make anyone happy. Some will be. Some won’t be. Make yourself happy and share that happiness with the ones that matter.

It isn’t about being selfish. Being selfish, in the long term, would definitely not make you happy. It is about realizing that you cannot MAKE anyone happy except yourself. It’s about finding out what brings you joy, what gives your life purpose. Do what you were born to do and share it those around you.

You choose to be happy. It is a choice. One you must make again and again in every moment. Others will choose for themselves. You cannot make them choose joy.

When you are treating yourself and others with love, respect and fairness, when you are discovering what inspires you and sharing that with others, you will bring happiness to their lives. What they choose to do with that is up to them. You will sleep well.

Peace.

susie

hey you..

missqokc — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 02:35:58 +0000

Feeling blue? Life just not what you expected? Maybe it’s time you forgot about all the things you feel like you were cheated out of and remembered who you were. Go do something. Run around the block, go to library and read a book, take a photo, write a story, dance, take up knitting, clean out the garage. It doesn’t matter what you do, just do something. Do something you don’t feel like doing but know you should. It’s weird how the things you don’t want to do but think you should make you feel so good when they are done. You might start to feel happy…and then…go do something that makes someone else happy. I bet before you know it you will start to remember who you were once…who you plan to be…and then…you will stop thinking so much about you…and that is when you will really be happy, but don’t worry about all that…just go do something. If you really have no idea what you want to do, and believe me, I can completely relate to that, try this…

if you live near Edmond, Oklahoma you can Bang a Gong. Trust me on this. You will feel awesome. It is impossible to feel depressed while banging a gong. It commands attention. It says, with a sound both rustic and holy,”I am here!” You don’t care what people driving by might think, you are banging a gong. That’s right! Do it!!

If you want to but can’t find it, ask and I will direct you.

Now go.

It’s a mom thing

missqokc — Wed, 07 Dec 2011 02:04:47 +0000

Even now, when I’m driving and have to break unexpectedly, just as quickly and automatically as my foot presses on the break pedal, my right arm flies out in front of the empty passenger seat protecting the child who sat there many years ago. I wonder if the day will come when I just stop doing this and I wonder how that will make me feel. Will it make me sad when my right arm finally has to accept what my brain has been telling it is true, the children are all grown up.

Holiday Attitude Makeover

missqokc — Thu, 24 Nov 2011 13:17:01 +0000

The most common complaint at my dental office this week was, “All my teeth hurt” or “My jaw hurts”. The diagnosis: TMJ pain brought on by Holiday Stress!! We gets so overwhelmed by holiday obligations that we are grinding are teeth away.

It is time to think about ways to simplify your holidays. Allow yourself to do less and enjoy more. It is ok to say, “no”. It is ok to delegate.

Take care if yourself. Find time to do what refreshes and revives you. Do what brings you joy.

“Be kind for everyone is fighting a hard battle.” Be slow to judge. Be less critical of your family. Most importantly, be thankful and loving. Don’t forget that is the point of the season.

Ketchup is not a vegetable

missqokc — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 02:41:39 +0000

“You take notes darlin’. The real way to get a man is with melted cheese and cream of mushroom soup. He’ll die at 50 but his love will be true.” Sheldon’s mom, Big Bang Theory

I keep trying to make my husband eat broccoli. He’ll thank me when he’s 90.

the complicated road to simplicity

missqokc — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 13:06:04 +0000

In my never-ending quest to simplify my closet and look effortlessly chic at all times, I decided that I should only wear black or dark jeans. They are more flattering on me and more versatile, easier to dress up than faded blue. Of course, this meant I had to go shopping. I really hate it when my desire to have less drives me to buy more but it had to be done. I found 2 new pairs of dark jeans and one faded blue. I know, I know, I don’t wear those anymore but they fit really well and the waist is high enough to cover my butt when I bend down and low enough to not be considered mom jeans. So, I bought all three. I think I’ll look through my closet for 4 things to give away. Then I won’t have to consider this situation a defeat. I am a work in progress.

IF you can keep your head…

missqokc — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 20:53:24 +0000

“If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,”

If….if only.

I do this some of the time. The question is, how do I change this reaction from some of the time or most of the time to all of the time…

Counting to 10 is effective…some of the time.

Maybe by remembering that it is from these situations that I learn. When you test me, you teach me. Your infuriating behavior is making me better. I cannot say that I am truly thankful for this opportunity for growth but maybe someday, with practice, I will be.

IF
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream-and not make dreams your master;
If you can think-and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with triumph and disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build ‘em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss;
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings–nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run-
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And-which is more–you’ll be a Man, my son!

–Rudyard Kipling

But enough about me, let’s talk about You. What do YOU think of me?

missqokc — Wed, 02 Feb 2011 14:50:37 +0000

I sit with God and I talk about me. My hopes, my fears, my plans, my family, my friends, my gratitude, my questions…

Then I say to Him, “But enough about me, What do You think of me.” What do You want for me? What do You want FROM me? What do You have planned for me?

Finally, I shut up and listen. And I wait for answers, for enlightenment, for hope, for something…

Eventually, I sit in silence before Him without expectation…and that is when the world opens up.

From Spiritual Formation by Henri Nouwen

The world says, “If you are not making good use of your time, you are useless.” Jesus says: “Come spend some useless time with me.” If we think about prayer in terms of its usefulness to us-what prayer will do for us, what spiritual benefits we will gain, what insights we will gain, what divine presence we may feel–God cannot easily speak to us. But if we can detach ourselves from the idea of the usefulness of prayer and the results of prayer we become free to “waste” a precious hour with God in prayer. Gradually, we may find, our “useless” time will transform us, and everything around us will be different.

and so it is, I am learning, with marriage, and perhaps other relationships, that when I give up listening in order to be a good listener, to understand, to improve the relationship, to get the result I want…when I learn to really open my ears and my heart without expectation…everything will be different.